RE:>>To truly "WIN" is to
surrender, give up and free ones self of the
burden that out weights
all others, the driving "need" to be "better than."
The desire to "win" is different
for lots of folks. I would say, however, that I have much
more fun when I'm in a group of "winners" than when I'm surrounded by a
group of "losers". You know the type; "Woe is me, the world has had
it in for me since I was born and I'm helpless to do anything about
it". If you feel the angony of defeat often enough, one begins to
want to work harder at finishing a little closer to the lead dog.
("If you are not the lead dog, the scenery never changes" comes to mind).
I feel that working hard,
and smart, to achieve your God given potential and doing it with such fervor
that if you can't win then you are making the one ahead of you break the
record, then you're paying due respect to your ancestors who perhaps sweated
long and hard so that YOU could have get a break in life--your life wouldn't
have to be one of constant struggle.
Sure, you can be altruistic,
and I am very much a giving kind of person, but I have to agree with
Helen Williams--were it not for the competitive spirit in man, we would
still be going to town having to watch out for the fresh horse manure in
the streets. We wouldn't have such a thing as the Salk vaccine.
We wouldn't have the genome mapping of Arabidopsis Thaliana, or the near
completion of the same for Humans. These types of efforts take lots
of person years, and they get very competitive so sometimes, after long
hours and no results, much of what people have to hold onto is the thrill
of victory--the thrill of winning!
You are right Jim, winning
isn't everything. It's the ONLY thing. However, please note
that I never agree with achievement that comes at the expense of others.
There is no ecstacy of victory when it comes from trampling others on the
road to the the finish line. No, a winning spirit pushes and pulls
man on to greater accomplishments, and this is part of what is in the blood
of a winner. Think what the world would be like if Hitler had succeeded
and if we had not been determined to be winners.
Spike at the Gardenweb (finally
back on topic) has done a superb job of putting together an excellent forum
for lots of folks who enjoy discussing plants. I know of no web site
that enjoys a larger market share, simply because there is no one that
is providing a better service. So, in that regard, Spike is "the
lead dog" and the one who has set the standard of what a "winner" looks
like in that industry.
And, if you don't like winning
at what you do, maybe we're describing this concept differently.
Do you have goals that you want to accomplish? Well, when you accomplish
them, you are a winner! :-)
RE:>> I take
TOTAL issue with your statement. I perceive that "Winning is not about
making everyone a friend" but being "a friend to man."
I sure notice a lot of long
faces on the sports teams that lose relative to those who win. Losing
sucks. I never start anything intending to lose. If people
become friends in the process, great, but most people don't want to work
as hard as a winner so it doesn't surprise me that many winners are out
in front, and all alone. That's the price they pay for achieving
what God would allow them to, by using their gifts and doing so with the
determination to either win, or to make the one ahead of them break the
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