Re: One project accomplished

Geez Kitty...that sounds like something MY family would do. I hate those "family politics" where this one goes to tell the other one something and when you all get together everybody has the creeps cause you don't know what they've said about you behind your back. My family is like that, and that is EXACTLY why I don't go to their get-togethers. I will not be a part of the "he said, she said" thing. I hate it.



From: kmrsy@comcast.net
Reply-To: gardenchat@hort.net
To: gardenchat@hort.net
Subject: Re: [CHAT] One project accomplished
Date: Thu, 30 Dec 2004 18:36:45 +0000

Auralie, I thoroughly agree with you, but I have a small family and my
sister visits rarely because of the long distance (though now she says
she has to deliver a paper in South Bend in May and could she visit
again? !!!!!!) A hotel would be out of the question for such a lengthy
stay, and she doesn't have a car. I had to buy a bed and rearrange 3
rooms of furniture to set things up for her stay.


There is a big guilt story behind this accommodation. About 10 yrs ago
my dad (from TN) showed up at my door unannounced and asked if he could
stay the night because he had no $ for a hotel. I had just moved the
entire houseful of furniture into the living room for carpet cleaners
coming a few days later. I unearthed a bed for him and then suddenly he
was staying a few more days and then he shows up with a new set of golf
clubs (already had 2 nice sets) I casually mentioned that I thought he
said he was broke. He started screaming at me that if he wasn't welcome
he would just leave, packed his bags and left.


A month later I had to go to Chicago for a wake and visited my mom's
relatives. My aunts asked me why I had thrown my father out on the
street. Why couldn't he stay with me when he visited? I was mortified.
He knew exactly how to hit me where it counted by running to my mom's
family and lieing about what had happened.


Kitty





-------------- Original message --------------

> Kitty, my grandmother used to say houseguests like dead fish stink
> after three days. In our old age we don't even allow our sons and
> families to stay - if they are to be here overnight we rent them a room
> in a local motel. We have filled up all the spare rooms with office
> equipment, boxes, storage, junk, etc. so we can just say there's no
> room. Teenagers we will put up for a few days in sleeping bags,
> but no adults.
> Auralie
>
> In a message dated 12/30/2004 11:57:27 AM Eastern Standard Time,
> kmrsy@comcast.net writes:
> Oh well, the 5th is right around the corner and things will eventually
> get back to normal. Thanks, everyone, for allowing me to air my familial
> warts.
>
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