Re: One project > survey

I'm very touchy-feely -- probably why my working background has been in victim advocacy/social work sort of stuff. I do, however, try to figure out if the recipient of my hugs is 'in to it' before I start glomming on. :-) I once took a course in cultural politics and the importance of respecting the boundaries of others.
zem
----- Original Message ----- From: <kmrsy@comcast.net>
To: <gardenchat@hort.net>
Sent: Thursday, December 30, 2004 3:53 PM
Subject: Re: [CHAT] One project > survey


I think that's wonderful, Donna. I wish I could be more like that. To
tell you the truth, though, I am in better shape now than during her
last visit. I'm just not a particularly sociable person and consequently
I'm sort of torn betwen wanting to just do what I want and feeling like
a terrible host.


Here's an example:
I reallllllllllly hate all the hugging people want to do all the time
now. You can't say a simple "Hey that was great fun! Thanks for inviting
me. See you soon!", without someone glombing on to you, grabbing you
with both arms and dragging you into their bosom.


So, survey time:
A: "Hugs all-around! I'm touchy-feely. Anyone within grabbing distance!
Hello! Goodbye! Oh, just c'mere and give me a great big hug!!!!!"

B: "Hugs ok if appropriate - which is rarely. Keep your distance."

Which one are you? A or B?

Kitty

-------------- Original message --------------
well sorry Kitty- thought you were having a good
time...

I am conditioned for houseguests and they really don't
bother me... eveyone gets the ground rules ahead of
time... here is your space and my life doesnt stop
cause you are here.

Friends from vegas come twice a year for about 2-3
months each time. We have worked out this well.... we
each do our own thing, sometimes together -- sometimes
apart. Works for us.

Donna

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