Re: Happy Birthday!

Thanks. I try. No such thing as a perfect parent (or spouse) but I do the best I know how to do. But I'll tell ya....parenthood is the toughest gig there is. NOTHING easy about it.


From: "Pamela J. Evans" <gardenqueen@gbronline.com>
Reply-To: gardenchat@hort.net
To: <gardenchat@hort.net>
Subject: Re: [CHAT] Happy Birthday!
Date: Sun,  8 Feb 2004 19:07:38 -0600

She is indeed. Believe it.

---------- Original Message ----------------------------------
From: "pdickson" <pdickson@sbcglobal.net>
Reply-To: gardenchat@hort.net
Date:  Sun, 8 Feb 2004 16:57:02 -0600

>Jesse,
>I have a 30 year old daughter whom I love being around now too but somewhere
>around 12-13 she changed.... I now have a 15 year old son. I think he was a
>little slower at changing.
>I think you sound like a wonderful mother... keep up the GREAT work!
>Patricia
>----- Original Message -----
>From: "Jesse Bell" <jesserenebell@hotmail.com>
>To: <gardenchat@hort.net>
>Sent: Sunday, February 08, 2004 12:42 PM
>Subject: Re: [CHAT] Happy Birthday!
>
>
>> When I was a single mother...and BROKE...my three children new what a
>budget
>> was...I bought enough groceries for the week...if they ate more than the
>> "allotted" share for school lunches, then they didn't get a juice box or
>> cookies on Friday. They were doing laundry, vacuuming, helping with
>dishes,
>> mowing and all that. It's that "magical" number....around 15 or 16 where
>> they THINK they are helping you, but not without major attitude and
>rolling
>> of eyes, and they do a half-assed job and don't "get it" when I tell them
>to
>> do it again, only BETTER this time. Yours are still young. I'll bet
>money
>> on it when they get older you'll see that change in them. It's just part
>of
>> being a teenager. They are also at that age where they push you to the
>> limit. Curfew for the 15 year olds is 11:00 on Friday/Saturday (football
>> games, basketball games, school dances). The other night...they dragged
>> home at almost 1:00 a.m. At 7:00 a.m I had their butts up and said, "if
>you
>> keep me up till 1:00 worrying, then you get to get up early, feed ALL the
>> animals and help around the house...and there will be NO naps today!"
>They
>> were in bed that night at 8:30. And grounded. It's just part of raising
>a
>> houseful of teenagers. I was prepared. When I married DH, his first two
>> children were 15 and 17. It was baptism by fire for me. You're supposed
>to
>> "gradually grow into the teen years". Well, I didn't get to do that.
>They
>> were awful. But now...I love being around them.
>>
>>
>>
>> >From: "Melody" <mhobertm@excite.com>
>> >Reply-To: gardenchat@hort.net
>> >To: gardenchat@hort.net
>> >Subject: Re: [CHAT] Happy Birthday!
>> >Date: Sat, 7 Feb 2004 19:32:17 -0500 (EST)
>> >
>> >Jesse: Just another tip...you might try the "If I'm cleaning then
>> >everybody is cleaning" routine, too...meaning no one goes anywhere or
>> >does anything, not even talk on the phone, until and unless what needs
>> >to be done around the house gets done...with a group effort. You might
>> >also want to tell your kids that at half their ages, my 3 already know
>> >how to use all the major household appliances (dishwasher, washing
>> >machine, dryer, microwave, vacuum, stove/oven) and use them on a routine
>> >(i.e. daily/weekly) basis...I gave up being a martyr mom a long time
>> >ago, too...course I must admit, that if I want the kids' rooms to be
>> >**really** clean...that's a whole other experience so I've learned to
>> >lower my standards a little when it comes to how the kids clean their
>> >own rooms. Good luck with your strike...and hang in...children and
>> >husbands are capable of learning new tricks!
>> >
>> >
>> >Melody, IA (Z 5/4)
>> >
>> >"The most beautiful thing we can experience is the mysterious."
>> >--Albert Einstein
>> >
>> > --- On Sat 02/07, Jesse Bell < jesserenebell@hotmail.com > wrote:
>> >From: Jesse Bell [mailto: jesserenebell@hotmail.com]
>> >To: gardenchat@hort.net
>> >Date: Sat, 07 Feb 2004 12:16:57 -0600
>> >Subject: Re: [CHAT] Happy Birthday!
>> >
>> >Thanks! And no, you don't sound preachy at all. It's just the truth.
>> >I've <br>hit that point in my life where my family thinks I've gone
>> >insane and <br>"changed". LOL. Because I've gone on strike.
>> >When they ask "what's for <br>dinner?" I say "I don't
>> >know, what are you fixing?" When my husband can't <br>find clothes
>> >I say "I don't know, ask the laundry fairy what she did with
>> ><br>it". It dawned on me that I have a house full of teenagers and
>> >a husband <br>who think they can't do anything. The youngest three are
>> >all 15 years old. <br>The other is 17. The oldest two are gone. I work
>> >outside the home. So <br>does my husband. So why should I be the one who
>> >plans dinners, does all the <br>laundry and somehow magically know where
>> >to find things that they have lost? <br> It escapes me. So...about two
>> >weeks ago, I did the "meltdown" thing and <br>gathered the
>> >whole family together and told them that I am not their maid or
>> ><br>housekeeper, I will be taking time to do the things that I want to
>> >do and if <br>that bothers them, TOO BAD! They always seem to find time
>> >to do what they <br>want to do, but I'm the one stuck cleaning the house
>> >and such. NO MORE. I <br>told my husband if he wants a clean and
>> >spotless house, then get after it or <br>hire a housecleaner. I will do
>> >SOME, but not ALL anymore. And I warned <br>them that gardening season
>> >is around the corner and if they need <br>me...they'll know where to
>> >find me...and it WON'T be in the house. I've <br>heard this happens to
>> >women when they hit the menopausal years.....well....I <br>guess it hit
>> >me. I do NOT have to do this anymore. They are all quite <br>capable of
>> >doing it themselves. I am not Saint Jesse the martyr. If they <br>want
>> >something...learn to do it themselves. End of discussion. So, now
>> ><br>they think I've become this grouchy person. OH
>> >well.<br><br><br><br>Jesse Rene' Bell<br>Claremore, OK<br>Zone
>> >6<br><br><br><br><br><br>>From: Aplfgcnys@aol.com<br>>Reply-To:
>> >gardenchat@
>> >
>> >hort.net<br>>To: gardenchat@hort.net<br>>Subject: Re: [CHAT] Happy
>> >Birthday!<br>>Date: Sat, 7 Feb 2004 12:17:11
>> >EST<br>><br>>Belated Happy Birthday, Jesse. Here's hoping it was a
>> >good one. Don't <br>>give<br>>up your dreams for your own business
>> >- time passes more quickly than you <br>>would<br>>believe. I do
>> >know that from your perspective, you young women think
>> >your<br>>hectic over-crowded days with a houseful will never end, but
>> >kids do grow <br>>up<br>>eventually (sometimes it takes longer
>> >than you expect) and the days do come <br>>when<br>>you can do
>> >those things you dream about. Just have faith. Forgive me if
>> >I<br>>sound "preachy," but I've been there.
>>
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