Re: Re: ot- question, non gardening.

Me too Kitty, me too.  And it's an excellent read.  Can loan it to you if you like....

Pam Evans
Kemp, TX
zone 8A
----- Original Message -----
From: kmrsy@comcast.net
Sent: 1/19/2005 8:25:40 AM
To: gardenchat@hort.net
Subject: Re: [CHAT] ot- question, non gardening.

Sounds like a good read, Pam. Without your explanation, though, from the
title I would have taken it to be a self-help type book for people who
find themselves alone and are uncomfortable about it. I can't say that I
never wish I had someone to share a chuckle or a sob with, but
generally, I'm quite happy with my situation. It's much nicer than any
relationship I was ever in.


Kitty

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> You're both EXACTLY right. If you aren't happy w/in yourself, how much 
> fun is it for anyone around you? If I weren't the plump little contented 
> cat that I am - would I have so many friends as obnoxious & opinionated 
> as I can be? No, of course not. I am reading a most excellent book (for 
> the second time) that Jesse got me for Christmas. A Party of One, 
> subtitled the loner's manifesto. What a pure delight and a real 
> eye-opener. It would even be instructional for the mainstream non-loner 
> types. Proof positive that there is nothing wrong or deranged about 
> preferring solitude. It's just different. No rights, no wrongs. 
> 
> Separate but equal as it were. You'd like it I think. 
> 
> Pam Evans 
> Kemp, TX 
> zone 8A 
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: A A HODGES 
> Sent: 1/18/2005 7:16:13 PM 
> To: gardenchat@hort.net 
> Subject: Re: Fw: Re: [CHAT] ot- question, non gardening. 
> 
> AMEN Kitty. I am still learning to do that, having been raised in a home 
> where I was taught to accommodate everyone but myself. My family now thinks 
> I'm very selfish and mean, which is fine because that means they leave me 
> alone most of the time. Every once in a while I'll get one of them trying 
> to suck me back into the tribe, but once I realize what's happening I'm 
> able to put a stop to it. And being considerate of yourself first, does not 
> mean you are selfish. People just don't get the difference. 
> 
> A 
> 
> 
> Andrea H 
> hodgesaa@earthlink.net 
> EarthLink Revolves Around You. 
> 
> 
> > [Original Message] 
> > From: 
> > To: 
> > Date: 1/18/2005 1:22:42 PM 
> > Subject: Re: Fw: Re: [CHAT] ot- question, non gardening. 
> > 
> > To thine ownself be true? 
> > Your brother was fortunate to be able to make the move that best suited 
> > him. I think we all want to make an effort to please others to some 
> > degree - that degree not being the same for all the others we have 
> > contact with. And we'd like to think that others would be willing to 
> > accommodate our wishes, too - of course none of us would request an 
> > unrealistic amount of accommodation ;+). But I think that, when it 
> > really comes down to it, we need to accommodate ourselves first. This 
> > does not have to be selfish. If we take care of ourselves we are happier 
> > people and can then more readily accommodate the needs of others. And 
> > there is no guarantee that anyone else - any of those 'others' - is 
> > going to put us first. (needless to say, I'm not [necessarily] including 
> > anyone's spouse here) 
> > 
> > 
> > Kitty 
> > 
> > 
> > -------------- Original message -------------- 
> > > > If you aren't crazy about these relatives, then do get it. It'll keep 
> > > > them from bugging you. Control freaks are pretty annoying for the 
> most 
> > > > part. My brother asked me for years how to keep the folks from 
> staying 
> > > > w/ him (4 bedroom house). It told him - get a cat - dad's allergic. 
> He's 
> > > > not an animal person, so he ended up selling the house and now lives 
> on 
> > > > his 35 foot sailboat. Dad hates it, but it's cracking us up. 
> > > > 
> > > > 
> > > > Pam Evans 
> > > > Kemp, TX 
> > > > zone 8A 
> > > > ----- Original Message ----- 
> > > > From: David Franzman 
> > > > Sent: 1/17/2005 8:39:29 PM 
> > > > To: gardenchat@hort.net 
> > > > Subject: Re: [CHAT] ot- question, non gardening. 
> > > > 
> > > > Boy that got me out of hibernation. Leave it to folks in Berkeley. 
> Sorry 
> > > > Cathy but that town seems to affect anybody who enters it. They never 
> > > come 
> > > > out the same again. Nice town though for being in the middle of a 
> > > > metropolis. 
> > > > 
> > > > DF 
> > > > http://www.atouchofthetropics.net 
> > > > ----- Original Message ----- 
> > > > From: "Cathy Carpenter" 
> > > > To: 
> > > > Sent: Monday, January 17, 2005 1:32 PM 
> > > > Subject: Re: [CHAT] ot- question, non gardening. 
> > > > 
> > > > 
> > > > > Can't use caller ID because our Berkley, CA relatives (sorry, Dave) 
> will 
> > > > > refuse to call us if we have it. I guess they consider it an 
> invasion of 
> > > > > their privacy or something. 
> > > > > Cathy 
> > > > > On Saturday, January 15, 2005, at 10:37 PM, Kitty wrote: 
> > > > > 
> > > > >> I dislike call waiting too and do not have it for the same 
> reasons. I 
> > > do 
> > > > >> have caller ID though, and at times have just not picked up. 
> > > > >> Kitty 
> > > > >> ----- Original Message ----- 
> > > > >> From: 
> > > > >> To: 
> > > > >> Sent: Saturday, January 15, 2005 7:06 PM 
> > > > >> Subject: Re: [CHAT] ot- question, non gardening. 
> > > > >> 
> > > > >> 
> > > > >>> I totally agree with you about call waiting, Zem. I really think 
> it 
> > > is 
> > > > >>> rude, and I refuse to have it. I rarely ever use IMs because I am 
> > > > >>> so annoyed by the person who IMs me constantly. Only if I know 
> > > > >>> the person doesn't mind - like a friend in Buffalo who is hard to 
> > > > >>> get hold of otherwise. I would never IM a person I wasn't sure 
> > > > >>> about. 
> > > > >>> However, I think a chat with this group would be fun. 
> > > > >>> Auralie 
> > > > >>> 
> > > > >>> In a message dated 01/15/2005 2:40:06 PM Eastern Standard Time, 
> > > > >>> zsanders@midsouth.rr.com writes: 
> > > > >>> I hate IMs, but I don't like call waiting, either. I'm not too 
> > > > >> interested 
> > > > >>> in chat rooms, either. However, that is just me and my wanting to 
> be 
> > > in 
> > > > >>> control. :-) On the flip side, I'd probably like anything that 
> > > involved 
> > > > >> us. 
> > > > >>> zem 
> > > > >>> 
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