Re: Re: Four O'Clocks, wedding..

Second wife and I observed this in her family [it was her idea]. Patriarch, matriarch Irish-Catholic roles. Seven kids, most of them dysfunctional. Right about not talking--when there are patriarchs and matriarchs, there's not much use.

On Thursday, July 8, 2004, at 04:34 PM, Kitty wrote:

Generally not too overtly bad. It is typical Irish dysfunctional, but not
related to drink as non-Irish might think. More along the lines of not
talking about anything and by so-doing, it doesn't exist. Causes a lot more
problems than you might think.

Kitty

----- Original Message -----
From: "Jesse Bell" <silverhawk@flash.net>
To: <gardenchat@hort.net>
Sent: Thursday, July 08, 2004 2:44 PM
Subject: Re: [CHAT] Re: Four O'Clocks, wedding..


OHMYGOSH Kitty...that's horrible. Geeeeez Louise. So....your family and
my family sound related?! Are we cousins? Feel free to jump in there
Andrea...(Andrea and I trade stories about our family all the
time...LOL).


Jesse

Kitty <kmrsy@comcast.net> wrote:
Re > > Well, the dysfunctional part would be:...
Jesse, I was being facetious when I asked. However, your fleshing out the
material was pretty interesting, so, if I were to say I still didn't get
it,
maybe you'd tell us more? ;+)

To balance this I can add that my older sister decided to kill herself on
my
wedding day (didn't succeed) apparently because I asked her to make a
turkey. The turkey was the simplest thing I could come up with for her as
she kept asking for something to contribute. Then for my second wedding I
came darned close to trying to kill myself, so yes, I can relate.

Kitty

----- Original Message -----
From: "Jesse Bell"
To:
Sent: Thursday, July 08, 2004 1:33 PM
Subject: Re: [CHAT] Re: Four O'Clocks, wedding..


Oh yes...I did the shower and helped plan the food and coordinate. They
got married on the 2nd of July but did not leave for the
cruise/honeymoon till Monday so on Sunday we had the new in-law family
and our family (parents, brothers, sister, aunts, etc) at our house for
a cookout, drinks and fireworks. The groom's, mother, father and
stepmother were there. That was funny to watch too.


Well, the dysfunctional part would be: the second ex wife who is no
relation to the bride or groom, and when my stepdaughter lived with her,
they HATED each other, and yet she was escorted down the aisle like she
was FAMILY for Pete's sake. NOBODY wanted her there but my stepdaughter
didn't want to "hurt her feelings" so when she invited herself to the
wedding...Nic said "well....O.K.". This is the woman who spread horrible
rumors about my husband and his family that were not true....yet oddly
enough...continues to impose at our family functions.


AND...the people in my family and my husband''s ex who can't seem to
function in this world unless they have taken some sort of drug or have
a glass of alcohol in their hands...or worse..they've MIXED them...and
become so obnoxious you can't stand to be around them. Remember the old
toys you got in the gum machine...the black and white scottie dogs that
were magnets? and if you pushed one towards the other it would scoot
away? Well, that would be my sister or my husband's ex...they would come
into a room and you could see people start to scoot out of there....they
would continue with this scenario until somebody had to say "I think
you've had enough...go home and sleep it off". My sister left. The
ex...well she made a scene and was there until the last person was gone.
She was out back drinking shots of Yagermeister (I KNOW I didn't spell
that right). That stuff is like Tequila...it'll will kill ya after a few
shots. UGHHH.



Kitty wrote:
So what was the dysfunctional part?

Since this was your stepdaughter, did you have any part in the planning
of
the event?

Kitty

----- Original Message -----
From: "Jesse Bell"
To:
Sent: Thursday, July 08, 2004 12:10 PM
Subject: Re: [CHAT] Re: Four O'Clocks, wedding..


Well, in my zone the four o'clocks get bigger and bigger "tubers" as
they mature. I have some that are as big as a sweet potato....and they
get BIG, but are slower to bloom.


As for the wedding....you have to know that (A) I come from a very
dysfunctional family, (B) my husband's two ex's are dysfunctional and
way "out there", (c) my stepdaughter and her new husband are from
"that
generation" as my husband puts it...so half of the wedding guests were
rather conservative...and "that generation" made up the other
half...(facial piercing, tattoos all over, dressed rather oddly...and
when you walked out back of the reception hall...the smell of pot was
THICK let me tell ya). I had to make my sister go home because she had
too much to drink (act surprised) and was hitting on my brother-in-law
(who is very married). The mother of the bride (husband's first ex)
had

not eaten all day, took a Valium before the wedding and proceeded to
get
totally trashed at the reception (not a pretty sight) and the second
ex,
who really had no business being there but she invited herself, was
hovering around trying to mingle and most of them wanted nothing to do
with her.

BUT...the ceremony itself was nice. (deep breath) So...that's one
child
down and five more to go. I hope the others wait awhile. 

Kitty wrote:
Well, I have seen some JB holes on a few of the leaves, but I don't
see
any
carcasses. They are only just now beginning to bloom, so maybe their
lure
will be stronger as the season progresses.

Re> That was a LOT of work, let me tell ya
Yes, please do!

Kitty

----- Original Message -----
From: "Jesse Bell"
To:
Sent: Thursday, July 08, 2004 10:30 AM
Subject: [CHAT] Re: self-sowers/still catching up..


Still trying to catch up on e-mails. I didn't read them for 4-5 days
because of my daughter's wedding. That was a LOT of work, let me
tell
ya. Anyway...yes Kitty...I sent you some Four O'Clock
seeds..thinking
it
would help with the Japanese Beetle problem you were having. Did it
help
at all? Or is that an old wive's tale?



Kitty wrote:
You know, I think it was Jesse. Thanks!
Kitty
----- Original Message -----
From:
To:
Sent: Sunday, July 04, 2004 1:02 PM
Subject: Re: Re: [CHAT] self-sowers


Probably Jesse or moi Kitty - we both have them all over the
place!
Love
'em though! Anyone who needs seeds holler - I have tons of them.


Pam Evans
Kemp, TX
zone 8A
----- Original Message -----
From: Kitty
Sent: 7/4/2004 12:46:29 PM
To: gardenchat@hort.net
Subject: Re: [CHAT] self-sowers

Well, maybe it was Pam, I know she grows 4 O'Clocks. Whomever -
thanks!



too bad about the sting, I hate losing a day. Take care of
yourself.



Kitty



----- Original Message -----

From:

To:

Sent: Sunday, July 04, 2004 12:07 PM

Subject: Re: [CHAT] self-sowers





In a message dated 7/4/2004 11:41:05 AM Central Standard Time,

kmrsy@comcast.net writes:

Balsam, yeah, I need to grow that next year.



I did not send you the Mirabilis jalapa seeds, but I surely do
have
a
lot

of

Balsam. If you want seeds remind me later in the summer, and I
can
send

you

some. There's a weather alert on TV right now. We are
expecting
strong

straight line winds and sever thunder storms this afternoon,
but
I
think,

with all

the benadryl I took earlier, I'll never notice.



zem

zone 7

West TN





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