Re: now update on my dad

Thank you Bonnie- All support is appreciated and this group is wonderful.

Theresa

Bonnie & Bill Morgan wrote:

>Theresa, I am so very tickled that your father had the foresight to sign
>that type of paperwork and that you cared enough to honor him enough to sign
>with him.  I sure wish my folks had done that.  It would have made my job
>much easier and we could have avoided the full guardianship regimen.  It
>takes a great deal of time and money to maintain the guardianship as
>anything that needs to be purchased must be approved through the magistrate.
>It's not as though I have spare time after I take care of mother each day
>and watching her decline mentally and physically.  I'll no doubt have to
>take a vacation day to deal with the court paperwork for this years
>reporting and accounting of mother's person and her assets.   I spent weeks
>getting the guardianship in 2003.  I spent weeks last year running back and
>forth to Indy getting her assets ready to sell.  I spent many days working
>on the sale of her house and the disappointment she felt at not having her
>house to go back to (though she can no longer take care of the most simple
>tasks, including toileting.)
>
>I missed what happened to your dad, Theresa.  I'm sure it was no picnic for
>you or for him.  I do know he must love his family and trust you a great
>deal to have worried about the negative possibilities of aging before hand.
>If you ever need to talk, I'm only an e-mail or a phone call away.  If you
>would like me to put your dad in our church prayers, I'd be most happy to
>include him.  (One can never have too many prayers.)
>
>Blessings,
>Bonnie
>
>-----Original Message-----
>From: owner-gardenchat@hort.net [o*@hort.net] On Behalf
>Of Theresa
>Sent: Saturday, July 02, 2005 7:42 PM
>To: gardenchat@hort.net
>Subject: Re: [CHAT] now update on my dad
>
>too hot to walk here now too- that was part of why I walked at soon as I 
>got home this aM.  Then went over to a friends to see her new golden 
>retriever puppy.  He is soooo cute and fluffy.  My dad will be going to 
>a full nursing facility- and will likely be there for the remainder of 
>his life.  At least the place he is going doesn't look like a hospital.  
>It has lots of windows, cheerful decor, and staff and patients seem 
>happy.  It is also right near his house, so I can stay in his home when 
>I go up to visit him.  Fortunately, before any of this happened we had 
>his advanced health care directive (he has a DNR on file and specified 
>no life-prolonging activities if he is permanently unconsious/brain 
>dead/non responsive) and the power of attorney stuff.  I have signed 
>tons of papers- the hardest was the form to specify "NO CPR" or 
>intubation should anything else happen to him. Yuck- but that is what he 
>wants.  Just weird to sign something like that.
>
>Not as hot today as yesterday- so will likely walk later too.  Also 
>going to check with another gardening friend and see if she wants to 
>pick wild blackberries tonight or tomorrow AM.
>Thanks for your friendship-
>Theresa
>
>A A HODGES wrote:
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>>Walking always helps me feel better too Theresa. I hope that he will get
>>better soon. I can't imagine how stressful this must be. This sounds awful
>>but I'm glad my Dad has married a woman 12 years younger than he is so he
>>has someone close by to help when he needs it. I would gladly make the
>>trip, but I confess I have wondered in the past how to be helpful when my
>>parents get older as I'm not there and now neither is my sister. My mother
>>has repeatedly said " if I have to go into any kind of nursing home just
>>shoot me in the head, I'm serious!"  I told her she'd have to shoot herself
>>as I was not going to jail for her............Aren't we such a loving
>>family? 
>>
>>It's too hot here to go for a walk. Still close to 90% humidity and it's
>>probably 93 or so outside. It's awful. Feels like hot soup. I've got the
>>air set on 78 and it feels wonderful in here compared to outside, but the
>>dogs are panting like they're about to keel over. ;-)
>>
>>Andrea H
>>Beaufort, SC 
>>
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>>>[Original Message]
>>>From: Theresa -yhoo <tchessie@yahoo.com>
>>>To: <gardenchat@hort.net>
>>>Date: 7/2/2005 1:18:23 PM
>>>Subject: RE: [CHAT] now update on my dad
>>>
>>>He's about the same it seems.  They are working with
>>>him, so we'll see.  Hopefully they are going to remove
>>>the NGtube and place a PEG.  That should at least make
>>>him more comfortable.  I did manage to get a million
>>>more papers signed, got everything done for financial
>>>and medical trustee (at least for local places),
>>>forwarded his mail, made arrangements for rent payment
>>>      
>>>
>>>from his renter, etc.  So- lots accomplished.  Kind of
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>>>depressing though not seeing really any change since
>>>Tuesday.  Not that I should have expected it, but was
>>>hoping.
>>>
>>>I'm just got back home again and went immediately for
>>>a walk.  Good to be outside and moving.
>>>
>>>Theresa
>>>
>>>--- Donna <gossiper@sbcglobal.net> wrote:
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>>>>How's your dad doing?
>>>>
>>>>Donna
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>>>>>I'm back in Oroville again today- feels like I'm
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>>>>on
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>>>>>the sun.  It was too hot today!  And of course I
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>>>>was
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>>>>>in and out of my car a dozen times between the
>>>>>hospital, the bank, the post office, my dad's
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>>>>house,
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>>>>>back to the bank, etc. etc.  Roasting!  Hope
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>>>>tomorrow
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>>>>>is cooler.  I watered his trees this evening, and
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>>>>all
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>>>>>the little bird came flocking to the puddles to
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>>>>drink
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>>>>>and get wet.  Poor things- they must have been
>>>>>roasting too!
>>>>>
>>>>>Theresa
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