Re: time to vent!
Our agreement is along the lines of: I grow it, he cuts it. I fertilize, I
do the gardens, I do the birdfeeders, etc. The cutting is supposed to be
restricted to the lawn, plus edging. He's wandered into my gardens now and
then, usually cleaning out my seedlings, and I have yelled and cried, and he
usually just says it looked like weeds.
Last summer he got "inspired" (Donna, I so relate to your situation and you
have all my sympathy) and weedwhacked the dahlia bed because there was some
grass in it and it looked messy to him. While he's very bright and a
mathematical whiz, he doesn't know the difference between, well, pick 2, any
two, plants, and doesn't care to know. However, after I finally and
completely lost my temper (which never happens) last year after this event,
he has been much better about watching those edges and staying on the lawn
The thing is, once it's done, it's done. I think you are right to look
forward and figure out what else you can do with the space. I'm afraid I
don't have any sunny moist spots - I have all dry, so I don't have any ready
suggestions for favorite plants.
I've had comments from the neighborhood kids about how at their house their
dad does the yard work, and I just smile and say at my house we split the
yard work, and there's no reason I can't do it. Of course, the only time
you'll see any of the other women out, summer or winter, is if their
husband's are out of town. They do think I set a bad example, I think I set
a good one!
I'm sure since I'm late reading this thread, there will have been other
suggestions for plantings. Good luck with it and try to enjoy the
replanting if you can!
Maryland zone 6
----- Original Message -----
From: "Tchessie" <firstname.lastname@example.org>
Sent: Monday, June 21, 2004 12:57 PM
Subject: RE: [CHAT] time to vent!
> It cracks me up when the kids in my neighborhood ask me why I'm outside
> working (this happened again last week as I was pruning a low branch off a
> bradford pear). It amazing me that girls don't think they or women are
> capable of using a pruning saw and almost insist that my husband should be
> doing it. My husband and I however have a very clear agreement- the
> of the house is my territory. I only does something if I specifically ask
> for his help. Mind you, I wouldn't mind if he mowed the yard occasionally
> without my asking- but I can live with that too. I have never had him
> down, pull up or otherwise destroy a plant. And he is a great sport-
> I've planted, moved or trimmed anything, he's always willing to be drug
> and view the new look. He smiles and says it looks great, even though I
> know half the time he can't tell what is different.
> -----Original Message-----
> From: email@example.com [mailto:firstname.lastname@example.org]On
> Behalf Of cathy carpenter
> Sent: Sunday, June 20, 2004 2:04 PM
> To: email@example.com
> Subject: Re: [CHAT] time to vent!
> At least he didn't hit it with Round-Up! You won't have blooms this
> year, but it should come back. Gary is dangerous with any cutting
> instruments (mowers, weed wackers, etc) or chemicals. He mowed down 3
> of my long established big bluestem this year, and he supposedly knows
> the border of the bed they were planted in. Any shrub or tree newly
> planted is marked with those little construction flags - makes for an
> attractive yard!
> My condolences,
> On Sunday, June 20, 2004, at 01:16 PM, james singer wrote:
> > Donna, my sympathy. But this is one of the reasons Ms. Fatma and I
> > continually remind one another about pet projects. We do much garden
> > stuff together, but there are also lots of things we do individually
> > [she has only a gastronomic interest in tropical fruit, for example].
> > Talking and pointing help a lot.
> > On Sunday, June 20, 2004, at 02:04 PM, Donna wrote:
> >> I know many of you on this list are --um-- single, and I may be too if
> >> this trend continues.
> >> Yesterday while I was on 'the girls' road trip, DH who should not even
> >> be outside, decided to help me in the garden....
> >> He proceeded to cut down my entire patch of queen of the prairie, a 5
> >> X
> >> 5 ft stand about to bloom this week.
> >> I came home, looked out the patio door and had a fit!
> >> He thought it was a weed with seed heads and didn't want it to
> >> spread...
> >> it only took me 5 years to get it to fill the area!...destroyed in an
> >> afternoon.
> >> Grumble, grumble....
> >> Donna
> >> I figured this list would understand why I am upset, seems no one here
> >> does:(
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