Re: tolerance of lack of same

Hi Pam,

Amen to that.  Live alone in a small (140) people, am a male, and have had
at one time or another at least half of those folks wonder about a single
guy that gardens and raises "them purty flowers".

Thought that happened only in SanFranscico.  When my daughter moved in, the
rumors about a child (she was 13 at the time) molester started.

The life one chooses to live should be their own business,  the whole GD
criticism thing gets old after a while.  Rich in Z-5
----- Original Message -----
From: "Pamela J. Evans" <gardenqueen@gbronline.com>
To: <gardenchat@hort.net>
Sent: Tuesday, November 25, 2003 8:41 AM
Subject: RE: [CHAT]tolerance of lack of same


> Well shucks y'all now - I can't believe my eyes!!  And I don't mind the
question as long as it's not meant in a nasty way.
> I could care less about people's orientation one way or the other
> because that does not affect their value as a good person. Remember I
> live in a little bitty redneck burg - the only single people in this
> town are widows and most are well past their 80th birthdays. Someone of
> my gender and age alone is unusual here. Oh well, they're starting to
> adjust (some of them).
>
>
> ---------- Original Message ----------------------------------
> From: "Jesse Bell" <jesserenebell@hotmail.com>
> Reply-To: gardenchat@hort.net
> Date:  Tue, 25 Nov 2003 09:21:28 -0600
>
> >What she said.
> >
> >
> >
> >>From: "Lynda Young" <lyoung@grindertaber.com>
> >>Reply-To: gardenchat@hort.net
> >>To: <gardenchat@hort.net>
> >>Subject: RE: [CHAT]tolerance of lack of same
> >>Date: Tue, 25 Nov 2003 07:49:18 -0600
> >>
> >>Pam, I've always had touble with the theory that one needs a mate to be
> >>'complete'.  What rubbish - and what an incredible burden to place on
> >>someone else.  As for orientation - not a criteria for judging the value
> >>of a person in my opinion.  So, you just go about your life and laugh at
> >>anyone who questions the choices you have made, knowing that there are
> >>loads of people out here who hold you in the highest esteem and think
> >>you're darn near perfect.
> >>
> >>Lynda
> >>Zone 7 - West TN
> >>
> >>-----Original Message-----
> >>From: owner-gardenchat@hort.net [o*@hort.net] On
> >>Behalf Of Kitty
> >>Sent: Monday, November 24, 2003 9:12 PM
> >>To: gardenchat@hort.net
> >>Subject: Re: [CHAT]tolerance of lack of same
> >>
> >>
> >> > scorned, ignored, ridiculed, vilified and ostracized for my choice
for
> >>
> >> > a long time. Jesse's best friend from KC questioned my "orientation"
> >>
> >>Pam,
> >>A woman I worked with made that suggestion to me because I questioned
> >>why she wouldn't change her own tire.  I think people who are caught off
> >>guard like to use that as a tactic to push someone's buttons.  This
> >>woman had a flat tire, left the car somewhere and got a lift to work and
> >>called her husband (an airline pilot) to leave work and come fix her
> >>tire.  You could tell by the phone conversation that it would not be
> >>easy for him to leave work - but on this end you could tell she planned
> >>to make his life hell if he didn't.  I asked her why she didn't do it
> >>herself.  She sputtered, "What do you think I got married for?!"  And
> >>then she laid into me about my 'sexual orientation' because I can change
> >>a tire.  I thought this was funny because she knew I'd been married
> >>twice, and besides, I wouldn't consider it an insult - but I also
> >>wouldn't consider it to have any bearing on fixing a flat.
> >>
> >> > ... I know it's not a usual lifestyle in a world of couples
> >>
> >>Living alone is not unusual.  Lots of people do.  As long as it works
> >>for you and you have the network of friends you want and need (including
> >>Sugar), there is no need to feel odd-man-out.  I've been alone since '89
> >>and frankly these 14 years have been much better for me than the
> >>previous 14.  I don't understand why anyone would give you a hard time
> >>for being single and orientation is nobody's business.
> >>
> >>Kitty
> >>
> >>----- Original Message -----
> >>From: "Pamela J. Evans" <gardenqueen@gbronline.com>
> >>To: <gardenchat@hort.net>
> >>Sent: Monday, November 24, 2003 7:45 PM
> >>Subject: Re: [CHAT]tolerance of lack of same
> >>
> >>
> >> > I'm sorry if I sound defensive - that is not my intent. I have been
> >> > scorned, ignored, ridiculed, vilified and ostracized for my choice
for
> >>
> >> > a long time. Jesse's best friend from KC questioned my "orientation"
> >> > as others have done, though she was nice (and funny) about it - some
> >> > weren't. I know it's not a usual lifestyle in a world of couples, but
> >> > it does work for moi. And no, Sugar is WAY to possessive to allow
> >> > another animal on the property, let alone in the house. She's an only
> >> > child and LIKES it that way.
> >> >
> >> >
> >> > ---------- Original Message ----------------------------------
> >> > From: "Jesse Bell" <jesserenebell@hotmail.com>
> >> > Reply-To: gardenchat@hort.net
> >> > Date:  Mon, 24 Nov 2003 12:58:05 -0600
> >> >
> >> > >See?  I've said the same thing...she needs a few more cats.  But
> >> > >Sugar
> >>will
> >> > >NOT allow that...no way.
> >> > >
> >> > >Jesse Rene' Bell
> >> > >Claremore, OK
> >> > >Zone 6
> >> > >
> >> > >
> >> > >
> >> > >>From: Aplfgcnys@aol.com
> >> > >>Reply-To: gardenchat@hort.net
> >> > >>To: gardenchat@hort.net
> >> > >>Subject: Re: [CHAT]tolerance of lack of same
> >> > >>Date: Mon, 24 Nov 2003 13:46:11 EST
> >> > >>
> >> > >>In a message dated 11/24/2003 11:17:41 AM Eastern Standard Time,
> >> > >>gardenqueen@gbronline.com writes:
> >> > >>
> >> > >> > I don't have much patience w/ boneheads (of either gender) -
> >> > >> > that's
> >>why
> >> > >> > I live w/ a cat!! She's perfect! People used to tell me there's
a
> >>
> >> > >> > lid for every pot. I didn't believe that when I was 15 and I
> >> > >> > don't
> >>believe
> >> > >> > it 31 years later. Especially after the parade of losers,
> >> > >> > knotheads
> >>and
> >> > >> > whackos I've been exposed to. Glad your luck was better than
> >> > >> > mine!!
> >> > >> >
> >> > >> >
> >> > >>
> >> > >>Pam, don't feel so defensive about living alone.  Just be thankful
> >> > >>you
> >>are
> >> > >>strong and competent enough to have a satisfactory life on your own
> >> > >>-
> >>and
> >> > >>that
> >> > >>you didn't stumble into a dysfunctional relationship by mistake.
> >> > >>You
> >>and
> >> > >>Sugar
> >> > >>make a fine family - but I just wish you had more cats. Auralie
> >> > >>
> >> >
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