Re: tolerance of lack of same

Gosh. Now y'all got me wonderin' what my neighbors are sayin' 'bout me.
I really don't pay attention.  Sort of in my own little world.
Kitty

----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Richard T. Apking" <richa@midlands.net>
To: <gardenchat@hort.net>
Sent: Tuesday, November 25, 2003 10:45 PM
Subject: Re: [CHAT]tolerance of lack of same


> Hi Pam,
>
> Amen to that.  Live alone in a small (140) people, am a male, and have had
> at one time or another at least half of those folks wonder about a single
> guy that gardens and raises "them purty flowers".
>
> Thought that happened only in SanFranscico.  When my daughter moved in,
the
> rumors about a child (she was 13 at the time) molester started.
>
> The life one chooses to live should be their own business,  the whole GD
> criticism thing gets old after a while.  Rich in Z-5
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Pamela J. Evans" <gardenqueen@gbronline.com>
> To: <gardenchat@hort.net>
> Sent: Tuesday, November 25, 2003 8:41 AM
> Subject: RE: [CHAT]tolerance of lack of same
>
>
> > Well shucks y'all now - I can't believe my eyes!!  And I don't mind the
> question as long as it's not meant in a nasty way.
> > I could care less about people's orientation one way or the other
> > because that does not affect their value as a good person. Remember I
> > live in a little bitty redneck burg - the only single people in this
> > town are widows and most are well past their 80th birthdays. Someone of
> > my gender and age alone is unusual here. Oh well, they're starting to
> > adjust (some of them).
> >
> >
> > ---------- Original Message ----------------------------------
> > From: "Jesse Bell" <jesserenebell@hotmail.com>
> > Reply-To: gardenchat@hort.net
> > Date:  Tue, 25 Nov 2003 09:21:28 -0600
> >
> > >What she said.
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >>From: "Lynda Young" <lyoung@grindertaber.com>
> > >>Reply-To: gardenchat@hort.net
> > >>To: <gardenchat@hort.net>
> > >>Subject: RE: [CHAT]tolerance of lack of same
> > >>Date: Tue, 25 Nov 2003 07:49:18 -0600
> > >>
> > >>Pam, I've always had touble with the theory that one needs a mate to
be
> > >>'complete'.  What rubbish - and what an incredible burden to place on
> > >>someone else.  As for orientation - not a criteria for judging the
value
> > >>of a person in my opinion.  So, you just go about your life and laugh
at
> > >>anyone who questions the choices you have made, knowing that there are
> > >>loads of people out here who hold you in the highest esteem and think
> > >>you're darn near perfect.
> > >>
> > >>Lynda
> > >>Zone 7 - West TN
> > >>
> > >>-----Original Message-----
> > >>From: owner-gardenchat@hort.net [o*@hort.net] On
> > >>Behalf Of Kitty
> > >>Sent: Monday, November 24, 2003 9:12 PM
> > >>To: gardenchat@hort.net
> > >>Subject: Re: [CHAT]tolerance of lack of same
> > >>
> > >>
> > >> > scorned, ignored, ridiculed, vilified and ostracized for my choice
> for
> > >>
> > >> > a long time. Jesse's best friend from KC questioned my
"orientation"
> > >>
> > >>Pam,
> > >>A woman I worked with made that suggestion to me because I questioned
> > >>why she wouldn't change her own tire.  I think people who are caught
off
> > >>guard like to use that as a tactic to push someone's buttons.  This
> > >>woman had a flat tire, left the car somewhere and got a lift to work
and
> > >>called her husband (an airline pilot) to leave work and come fix her
> > >>tire.  You could tell by the phone conversation that it would not be
> > >>easy for him to leave work - but on this end you could tell she
planned
> > >>to make his life hell if he didn't.  I asked her why she didn't do it
> > >>herself.  She sputtered, "What do you think I got married for?!"  And
> > >>then she laid into me about my 'sexual orientation' because I can
change
> > >>a tire.  I thought this was funny because she knew I'd been married
> > >>twice, and besides, I wouldn't consider it an insult - but I also
> > >>wouldn't consider it to have any bearing on fixing a flat.
> > >>
> > >> > ... I know it's not a usual lifestyle in a world of couples
> > >>
> > >>Living alone is not unusual.  Lots of people do.  As long as it works
> > >>for you and you have the network of friends you want and need
(including
> > >>Sugar), there is no need to feel odd-man-out.  I've been alone since
'89
> > >>and frankly these 14 years have been much better for me than the
> > >>previous 14.  I don't understand why anyone would give you a hard time
> > >>for being single and orientation is nobody's business.
> > >>
> > >>Kitty
> > >>
> > >>----- Original Message -----
> > >>From: "Pamela J. Evans" <gardenqueen@gbronline.com>
> > >>To: <gardenchat@hort.net>
> > >>Sent: Monday, November 24, 2003 7:45 PM
> > >>Subject: Re: [CHAT]tolerance of lack of same
> > >>
> > >>
> > >> > I'm sorry if I sound defensive - that is not my intent. I have been
> > >> > scorned, ignored, ridiculed, vilified and ostracized for my choice
> for
> > >>
> > >> > a long time. Jesse's best friend from KC questioned my
"orientation"
> > >> > as others have done, though she was nice (and funny) about it -
some
> > >> > weren't. I know it's not a usual lifestyle in a world of couples,
but
> > >> > it does work for moi. And no, Sugar is WAY to possessive to allow
> > >> > another animal on the property, let alone in the house. She's an
only
> > >> > child and LIKES it that way.
> > >> >
> > >> >
> > >> > ---------- Original Message ----------------------------------
> > >> > From: "Jesse Bell" <jesserenebell@hotmail.com>
> > >> > Reply-To: gardenchat@hort.net
> > >> > Date:  Mon, 24 Nov 2003 12:58:05 -0600
> > >> >
> > >> > >See?  I've said the same thing...she needs a few more cats.  But
> > >> > >Sugar
> > >>will
> > >> > >NOT allow that...no way.
> > >> > >
> > >> > >Jesse Rene' Bell
> > >> > >Claremore, OK
> > >> > >Zone 6
> > >> > >
> > >> > >
> > >> > >
> > >> > >>From: Aplfgcnys@aol.com
> > >> > >>Reply-To: gardenchat@hort.net
> > >> > >>To: gardenchat@hort.net
> > >> > >>Subject: Re: [CHAT]tolerance of lack of same
> > >> > >>Date: Mon, 24 Nov 2003 13:46:11 EST
> > >> > >>
> > >> > >>In a message dated 11/24/2003 11:17:41 AM Eastern Standard Time,
> > >> > >>gardenqueen@gbronline.com writes:
> > >> > >>
> > >> > >> > I don't have much patience w/ boneheads (of either gender) -
> > >> > >> > that's
> > >>why
> > >> > >> > I live w/ a cat!! She's perfect! People used to tell me
there's
> a
> > >>
> > >> > >> > lid for every pot. I didn't believe that when I was 15 and I
> > >> > >> > don't
> > >>believe
> > >> > >> > it 31 years later. Especially after the parade of losers,
> > >> > >> > knotheads
> > >>and
> > >> > >> > whackos I've been exposed to. Glad your luck was better than
> > >> > >> > mine!!
> > >> > >> >
> > >> > >> >
> > >> > >>
> > >> > >>Pam, don't feel so defensive about living alone.  Just be
thankful
> > >> > >>you
> > >>are
> > >> > >>strong and competent enough to have a satisfactory life on your
own
> > >> > >>-
> > >>and
> > >> > >>that
> > >> > >>you didn't stumble into a dysfunctional relationship by mistake.
> > >> > >>You
> > >>and
> > >> > >>Sugar
> > >> > >>make a fine family - but I just wish you had more cats. Auralie
> > >> > >>
> > >> >
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> > >> > Kemp TX/zone 8A
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