Re: Weeding, in theory

Hmmm....

This does sort of remind me of my mother toward me too. And now that I'm
solidly an adult (I'm 41 y.o. by gosh!), I find it amazing that she could
treat you
that way, and yet, with my mother, I think it's kind of a generational
attitude that
you always know better than your kids and can always treat them like kids or

something.  Even when they're 40 years old!  I'd be careful of pulling a
dandelion
from even a friend's garden.

Aren't their a couple hundred self-help titles about this situation?  But,
my mother
doesn't read self-help titles either....

I do have some neighbor's up the street who come walking through my gardens
like they own the place, sometimes even bringing guests. While I sometimes
wish they'd
"knock first", or call ahead or something, they're very generous with their
compliments,
and they never pull anything!

Sorry I can't help!

-Allan

"Janet N. Yang" wrote:

>     Help me before I say something I'll regret...
>     My mother is visiting and has wasted no time pointing out how much
> work is needed in my garden. Yes, it needs weeding; No, I haven't got
> time to deadhead; I know the soil's too clayey --  the soil was that way
> when we bought the house. This from the woman whose garden has died from
> neglect.
>     So I let her prune the overgrown climbing rose and deadhead the
> bigroot geranium, and asked her to please help my daughter plant the
> annuals. Harmless, right? Well, I just found out that she pulled out
> most of my Disporum sessile 'Variegatum'. "Those aren't weeds!" I
> exclaimed.
>     "I know that, but they are choking your tree peony." If she had been
> here a week earlier, she would have seen the tree peony blooming its
> head off. She meant well, but to do this without even thinking of
> asking...I'm floored....in a few hours I'll be annoyed.... Yes, I'm
> especially sensitive because she always feels my decisions are mistakes.
>
>     Anybody else ever had their garden invaded by somebody who "knows
> better"?
>
> Janet
>
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Allan Anderson
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Minneapolis, MN 55417
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