Re: survey

Nah - it's always funny when it happens to others!
----- Original Message ----- 
From: <gardenqueen@academicplanet.com>
To: <gardenchat@hort.net>
Sent: Thursday, December 30, 2004 8:07 PM
Subject: Re: [CHAT] survey


> My folks are pretty stiff. I nearly died laughing when they met Mike &
> Elaine on their last visit and Elaine hugged the stuffing out of them.
> My mother looked at me like a deer in headlights and all I could do was
> laugh. Guess I should have been more sympathetic, huh?
>
>
> Pam Evans
> Kemp, TX
> zone 8A
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: Kitty
> Sent: 12/30/2004 7:08:32 PM
> To: gardenchat@hort.net
> Subject: [CHAT] survey
>
> I guess I should have been more precise.
>
> I was thinking of the example I mentioned:
>
> >>You can't say a simple "Hey that was great fun! Thanks for inviting me.
>
> See you soon!"<<
>
> To elaborate:
>
> I get together with about 6-8 women about every 6 weeks to chat at one of
>
> our homes.  We've know each othe since grade or high school.  One woman,
my
>
> oldest friend, loves to hug anything she can grab hold of.  As I followed
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> her out at evening's end she threw her arms around the hostess and thanked
>
> her for  a nice night. As her arms came back up she attempted to bring
them
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> down on me for the next hug; I deftly caught it in mid air and guided it
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> away quietly.  But no, she whips it back up and comes down on me with both
>
> arms, so I ducked out of harms way.  "I want a hug!"  "Debbe, you know I
>
> don't like hugs."  "I don't care!  I want a hug!"  "Well, you're not
getting
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> it from me."
>
>
>
> Anyone looking at this exchange would think I'm very antisocial, and
what's
>
> the harm in a hug.  Hugs are positive things.  So I look like a jerk for
>
> asking someone not to hug me.  So instead I usually just submit, grin and
>
> bear it.  But Debbe KNOWS how I feel.  Hugs make me very uncomfortable.
We
>
> have discussed it.  And this is not some special moment in our lives.
It's
>
> a simple "good bye - see you next time" thing.  Why must I have to grit my
>
> teeth and take it just because she wants it?  Hmmm? That's abuse of the
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> friendship.
>
>
>
> So, the A or B I'm asking about refers to a casual, reasonably frequent
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> get-together of friends.
>
>
>
> Just so you know - I gladly and warmly hugged my nephew when he got off
the
>
> plane last night.  But it has been over 6 months and he nearly died a
couple
>
> of times.  That is hug material.
>
>
>
>
>
> Kitty
>
>
>
> ----- Original Message ----- 
>
> From: "Jesse Bell" <
>
> > Depends on the person...family, friend, business associate.  Some people
>
> you
>
> > feel more comfortable hugging than others.
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> >
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> >
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> >
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> >
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> > >From: kmrsy@comcast.net
>
> > >Reply-To: gardenchat@hort.net
>
> > >To: gardenchat@hort.net
>
> > >Subject: Re: [CHAT] One project  > survey
>
> > >Date: Thu, 30 Dec 2004 21:53:39 +0000
>
> > >
>
> > >I think that's wonderful, Donna. I wish I could be more like that. To
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> > >tell you the truth, though, I am in better shape now than during her
>
> > >last visit. I'm just not a particularly sociable person and
consequently
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> > >I'm sort of torn betwen wanting to just do what I want and feeling like
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> > >a terrible host.
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> > >
>
> > >
>
> > >Here's an example:
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> > >I reallllllllllly hate all the hugging people want to do all the time
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> > >now. You can't say a simple "Hey that was great fun! Thanks for
inviting
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> > >me. See you soon!", without someone glombing on to you, grabbing you
>
> > >with both arms and dragging you into their bosom.
>
> > >
>
> > >
>
> > >So, survey time:
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> > >A: "Hugs all-around! I'm touchy-feely. Anyone within grabbing distance!
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> > >Hello! Goodbye! Oh, just c'mere and give me a great big hug!!!!!"
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> > >
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> > >B:  "Hugs ok if appropriate - which is rarely.  Keep your distance."
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> > >
>
> > >Which one are you?  A or B?
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> > >
>
> > >Kitty
>
>
>
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