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Re: Advice-totally off topic

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  • Subject: Re: Advice-totally off topic
  • From: "Pam Evans" <gardenqueen@gmail.com>
  • Date: Sun, 28 Dec 2008 16:28:14 -0600
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I'm afraid I would be the least qualified person on this list to give advice
on this particular topic.  Though I admire greatly your initiative for
considering such a big step.
I couldn't do it, but you're not me.  This is an immensely personal

On 12/28/08, james singer <inlandjim1@q.com> wrote:
> Heavy stuff Andrea. My first wife and I were both Depression babies--we
> grew up in houses where non-kin strangers often sat across from us at the
> dinner table. My mother must have fed half the hobos who streamed through
> SoCal and Virginia's parents set up beds in their garage so drifting
> families had a place to camp while they looked for work.
> When half of Virginia's and my kids were teenage, we took in two other
> teenagers--a sister and brother whose ages and sexes matched our two oldest.
> They were not foster kids, they were just middle-class kids trying to get
> away from abusive, alcoholic parents. So we gave them a place to stay and
> food to eat. They were with us for about two years, then the girl went away
> to college and the boy and our son went to Colorado to try their hands at
> being ski bums.
> It was probably easier for us because two our kids matched them in ages and
> they all seemed to like one another. I can't imagine what it would have been
> like if they had been damaged goods.
> On Dec 27, 2008, at 2:54 PM, andreah wrote:
> Because I value your opinions and experience, I would like some advice from
>> all of you great people.
>> For a couple of years now I have considered off and on possibly adopting
>> or at
>> least fostering a child. ONE child. I know my limits and I do not think I
>> could handle more than one. Also, I am speaking of an older child. No
>> babies.
>> If I wanted a baby I would have had one. Anyway-there are hundreds that
>> need
>> homes just in S.C.
>> Recently, my consideration has taken a turn more towards a "I think I
>> really
>> want to do this" attitude. I would like to have a family and I don't think
>> waiting around on a divorced man with children is the way to go about it.
>> Anyway-I've spoken with some close friends who have three adopted children
>> and
>> they've given me some great advice, but I value your opinions as well.
>> At the moment I am not financially ready, even though I know the state
>> helps.
>> They help to the tune of about $300 a month here which is nothing.
>> So, advice, opinions, experiences, etc. All would be welcome, good or bad,
>> yes, or no.
>> I am giving myself a year to get ready. Unless I change my mind and I
>> don't
>> think I will, hopefully by this time next year I'll at least be fostering.
>> Cheers!
>> A
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> Inland Jim
> Willamette Valley
> 44.99 N 123.04 W
> Elevation 148'
> 39.9" Precipitation
> Hardiness Zone 8/9
> Heat Zone 5
> Sunset Zone 6
> Minimum 0 F [-15 C]
> Maximum 102 F [39 C]
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zone 8A

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