Re: Happy Birthday!


When the kids were teenagers, I saw a T-shirt that summed up my attitude
perfectly.

"Don't mess with me, I have teenagers!"

> From: "Jesse Bell" <jesserenebell@hotmail.com>
... snip ...major attitude and rolling of eyes, ... snip...I'll bet
> money
> > on it when they get older you'll see that change in them.  It's just
part
> of
> > being a teenager.  They are also at that age where they push you to the
> > limit.  Curfew for the 15 year olds is 11:00 on Friday/Saturday
(football
> > games, basketball games, school dances).  The other night...they dragged
> > home at almost 1:00 a.m.  At 7:00 a.m I had their butts up and said, "if
> you
> > keep me up till 1:00 worrying, then you get to get up early, feed ALL
the
> > animals and help around the house...and there will be NO naps today!"
> They
> > were in bed that night at 8:30.  And grounded.  It's just part of
raising
> a
> > houseful of teenagers.  I was prepared.  When I married DH, his first
two
> > children were 15 and 17.  It was baptism by fire for me.  You're
supposed
> to
> > "gradually grow into the teen years".  Well, I didn't get to do that.
> They
> > were awful.  But now...I love being around them.
> >
> >
> >
> > >From: "Melody" <mhobertm@excite.com>
> > >Reply-To: gardenchat@hort.net
> > >To: gardenchat@hort.net
> > >Subject: Re: [CHAT] Happy Birthday!
> > >Date: Sat,  7 Feb 2004 19:32:17 -0500 (EST)
> > >
> > >Jesse: Just another tip...you might try the "If I'm cleaning then
> > >everybody is cleaning" routine, too...meaning no one goes anywhere or
> > >does anything, not even talk on the phone, until and unless what needs
> > >to be done around the house gets done...with a group effort. You might
> > >also want to tell your kids that at half their ages, my 3 already know
> > >how to use all the major household appliances (dishwasher, washing
> > >machine, dryer, microwave, vacuum, stove/oven) and use them on a
routine
> > >(i.e. daily/weekly) basis...I gave up being a martyr mom a long time
> > >ago, too...course I must admit, that if I want the kids' rooms to be
> > >**really** clean...that's a whole other experience so I've learned to
> > >lower my standards a little when it comes to how the kids clean their
> > >own rooms. Good luck with your strike...and hang in...children and
> > >husbands are capable of learning new tricks!
> > >
> > >
> > >Melody, IA (Z 5/4)
> > >
> > >"The most beautiful thing we can experience is the mysterious."
> > >--Albert Einstein
> > >
> > >  --- On Sat 02/07, Jesse Bell < jesserenebell@hotmail.com > wrote:
> > >From: Jesse Bell [mailto: jesserenebell@hotmail.com]
> > >To: gardenchat@hort.net
> > >Date: Sat, 07 Feb 2004 12:16:57 -0600
> > >Subject: Re: [CHAT] Happy Birthday!
> > >
> > >Thanks! And no, you don't sound preachy at all. It's just the truth.
> > >I've <br>hit that point in my life where my family thinks I've gone
> > >insane and <br>&quot;changed&quot;. LOL. Because I've gone on strike.
> > >When they ask &quot;what's for <br>dinner?&quot; I say &quot;I don't
> > >know, what are you fixing?&quot; When my husband can't <br>find clothes
> > >I say &quot;I don't know, ask the laundry fairy what she did with
> > ><br>it&quot;. It dawned on me that I have a house full of teenagers and
> > >a husband <br>who think they can't do anything. The youngest three are
> > >all 15 years old. <br>The other is 17. The oldest two are gone. I work
> > >outside the home. So <br>does my husband. So why should I be the one
who
> > >plans dinners, does all the <br>laundry and somehow magically know
where
> > >to find things that they have lost? <br> It escapes me. So...about two
> > >weeks ago, I did the &quot;meltdown&quot; thing and <br>gathered the
> > >whole family together and told them that I am not their maid or
> > ><br>housekeeper, I will be taking time to do the things that I want to
> > >do and if <br>that bothers them, TOO BAD! They always seem to find time
> > >to do what they <br>want to do, but I'm the one stuck cleaning the
house
> > >and such. NO MORE. I <br>told my husband if he wants a clean and
> > >spotless house, then get after it or <br>hire a housecleaner. I will do
> > >SOME, but not ALL anymore. And I warned <br>them that gardening season
> > >is around the corner and if they need <br>me...they'll know where to
> > >find me...and it WON'T be in the house. I've <br>heard this happens to
> > >women when they hit the menopausal years.....well....I <br>guess it hit
> > >me. I do NOT have to do this anymore. They are all quite <br>capable of
> > >doing it themselves. I am not Saint Jesse the martyr. If they <br>want
> > >something...learn to do it themselves. End of discussion. So, now
> > ><br>they think I've become this grouchy person. OH
> > >well.<br><br><br><br>Jesse Rene' Bell<br>Claremore, OK<br>Zone
> > >6<br><br><br><br><br><br>&gt;From: Aplfgcnys@aol.com<br>&gt;Reply-To:
> > >gardenchat@
> > >
> > >hort.net<br>&gt;To: gardenchat@hort.net<br>&gt;Subject: Re: [CHAT]
Happy
> > >Birthday!<br>&gt;Date: Sat, 7 Feb 2004 12:17:11
> > >EST<br>&gt;<br>&gt;Belated Happy Birthday, Jesse. Here's hoping it was
a
> > >good one. Don't <br>&gt;give<br>&gt;up your dreams for your own
business
> > >- time passes more quickly than you <br>&gt;would<br>&gt;believe. I do
> > >know that from your perspective, you young women think
> > >your<br>&gt;hectic over-crowded days with a houseful will never end,
but
> > >kids do grow <br>&gt;up<br>&gt;eventually (sometimes it takes longer
> > >than you expect) and the days do come <br>&gt;when<br>&gt;you can do
> > >those things you dream about. Just have faith. Forgive me if
> > >I<br>&gt;sound &quot;preachy,&quot; but I've been there.
> >
>
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