Re: Happy Birthday!
Jesse,
I have a 30 year old daughter whom I love being around now too but somewhere
around 12-13 she changed.... I now have a 15 year old son. I think he was a
little slower at changing.
I think you sound like a wonderful mother... keep up the GREAT work!
Patricia
----- Original Message -----
From: "Jesse Bell" <jesserenebell@hotmail.com>
To: <gardenchat@hort.net>
Sent: Sunday, February 08, 2004 12:42 PM
Subject: Re: [CHAT] Happy Birthday!
> When I was a single mother...and BROKE...my three children new what a
budget
> was...I bought enough groceries for the week...if they ate more than the
> "allotted" share for school lunches, then they didn't get a juice box or
> cookies on Friday. They were doing laundry, vacuuming, helping with
dishes,
> mowing and all that. It's that "magical" number....around 15 or 16 where
> they THINK they are helping you, but not without major attitude and
rolling
> of eyes, and they do a half-assed job and don't "get it" when I tell them
to
> do it again, only BETTER this time. Yours are still young. I'll bet
money
> on it when they get older you'll see that change in them. It's just part
of
> being a teenager. They are also at that age where they push you to the
> limit. Curfew for the 15 year olds is 11:00 on Friday/Saturday (football
> games, basketball games, school dances). The other night...they dragged
> home at almost 1:00 a.m. At 7:00 a.m I had their butts up and said, "if
you
> keep me up till 1:00 worrying, then you get to get up early, feed ALL the
> animals and help around the house...and there will be NO naps today!"
They
> were in bed that night at 8:30. And grounded. It's just part of raising
a
> houseful of teenagers. I was prepared. When I married DH, his first two
> children were 15 and 17. It was baptism by fire for me. You're supposed
to
> "gradually grow into the teen years". Well, I didn't get to do that.
They
> were awful. But now...I love being around them.
>
>
>
> >From: "Melody" <mhobertm@excite.com>
> >Reply-To: gardenchat@hort.net
> >To: gardenchat@hort.net
> >Subject: Re: [CHAT] Happy Birthday!
> >Date: Sat, 7 Feb 2004 19:32:17 -0500 (EST)
> >
> >Jesse: Just another tip...you might try the "If I'm cleaning then
> >everybody is cleaning" routine, too...meaning no one goes anywhere or
> >does anything, not even talk on the phone, until and unless what needs
> >to be done around the house gets done...with a group effort. You might
> >also want to tell your kids that at half their ages, my 3 already know
> >how to use all the major household appliances (dishwasher, washing
> >machine, dryer, microwave, vacuum, stove/oven) and use them on a routine
> >(i.e. daily/weekly) basis...I gave up being a martyr mom a long time
> >ago, too...course I must admit, that if I want the kids' rooms to be
> >**really** clean...that's a whole other experience so I've learned to
> >lower my standards a little when it comes to how the kids clean their
> >own rooms. Good luck with your strike...and hang in...children and
> >husbands are capable of learning new tricks!
> >
> >
> >Melody, IA (Z 5/4)
> >
> >"The most beautiful thing we can experience is the mysterious."
> >--Albert Einstein
> >
> > --- On Sat 02/07, Jesse Bell < jesserenebell@hotmail.com > wrote:
> >From: Jesse Bell [mailto: jesserenebell@hotmail.com]
> >To: gardenchat@hort.net
> >Date: Sat, 07 Feb 2004 12:16:57 -0600
> >Subject: Re: [CHAT] Happy Birthday!
> >
> >Thanks! And no, you don't sound preachy at all. It's just the truth.
> >I've <br>hit that point in my life where my family thinks I've gone
> >insane and <br>"changed". LOL. Because I've gone on strike.
> >When they ask "what's for <br>dinner?" I say "I don't
> >know, what are you fixing?" When my husband can't <br>find clothes
> >I say "I don't know, ask the laundry fairy what she did with
> ><br>it". It dawned on me that I have a house full of teenagers and
> >a husband <br>who think they can't do anything. The youngest three are
> >all 15 years old. <br>The other is 17. The oldest two are gone. I work
> >outside the home. So <br>does my husband. So why should I be the one who
> >plans dinners, does all the <br>laundry and somehow magically know where
> >to find things that they have lost? <br> It escapes me. So...about two
> >weeks ago, I did the "meltdown" thing and <br>gathered the
> >whole family together and told them that I am not their maid or
> ><br>housekeeper, I will be taking time to do the things that I want to
> >do and if <br>that bothers them, TOO BAD! They always seem to find time
> >to do what they <br>want to do, but I'm the one stuck cleaning the house
> >and such. NO MORE. I <br>told my husband if he wants a clean and
> >spotless house, then get after it or <br>hire a housecleaner. I will do
> >SOME, but not ALL anymore. And I warned <br>them that gardening season
> >is around the corner and if they need <br>me...they'll know where to
> >find me...and it WON'T be in the house. I've <br>heard this happens to
> >women when they hit the menopausal years.....well....I <br>guess it hit
> >me. I do NOT have to do this anymore. They are all quite <br>capable of
> >doing it themselves. I am not Saint Jesse the martyr. If they <br>want
> >something...learn to do it themselves. End of discussion. So, now
> ><br>they think I've become this grouchy person. OH
> >well.<br><br><br><br>Jesse Rene' Bell<br>Claremore, OK<br>Zone
> >6<br><br><br><br><br><br>>From: Aplfgcnys@aol.com<br>>Reply-To:
> >gardenchat@
> >
> >hort.net<br>>To: gardenchat@hort.net<br>>Subject: Re: [CHAT] Happy
> >Birthday!<br>>Date: Sat, 7 Feb 2004 12:17:11
> >EST<br>><br>>Belated Happy Birthday, Jesse. Here's hoping it was a
> >good one. Don't <br>>give<br>>up your dreams for your own business
> >- time passes more quickly than you <br>>would<br>>believe. I do
> >know that from your perspective, you young women think
> >your<br>>hectic over-crowded days with a houseful will never end, but
> >kids do grow <br>>up<br>>eventually (sometimes it takes longer
> >than you expect) and the days do come <br>>when<br>>you can do
> >those things you dream about. Just have faith. Forgive me if
> >I<br>>sound "preachy," but I've been there.
>
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