Dear Vicki (& List), I had to LOL with Vicki's comment "guess it's kinda like a marriage". I've found that plants can teach you a lot about life. One of the most important lessons I learned in the plant world was to "leave it alone" translated in life as "Let Go & Let 'God'". Too much cussin' and fussin' can be a bad thing. Sometimes just observing and tolerating is the best and sometimes "cutting" off the dead leaves is best. The lesson is learning which time is which. Good growing to all, Lynn wecare4plants@SonomaCounty.com