Re: its awfully quiet....and the struggle of next week

Oh Theresa - God bless you and your sister.  This will be a dreadful weekend
for you, I am so sorry.  And yes you ARE doing the right thing, you're a
doctor, you know that.  But it doesn't make you feel any better about having
to do it.  You will all be in my thoughts & prayers even more so.  Check in
when you can.

On 5/25/07, Theresa W <tchessie1@sbcglobal.net> wrote:
>
> Thanks for the words of experience and support : )
>
> Theresa
>
> holmesbm@usit.net wrote:
> > Keep your spirit up.  We have this disease in my family so I know what
> you
> > are going through is very difficult.  She may blame you for all sorts of
> > things but remind yourself that it is the disease talking and getting
> your
> > Mom confused.  Your Mom won't be the same person you knew and you are
> doing
> > the best for her.  If you leave her in her home, she won't eat properly,
> > take her medicine, and may injure herself.
> >
> > My Mom, who can't identify us and now can't find her way to and from the
> > dining room, still insists that we were wrong in removing her from her
> home
> > and not replacing her car that she wreaked so she can have her
> independence
> > back.  Since she no longer knows how to turn on the TV, she might not be
> > able to drive a car.  Even though we have to tell her who we are, the
> staff
> > says she enjoys our visits and tells them her kids come when they
> can...she
> > is 10 hours from me.
> >
> > I keep hoping that research finds a way to reverse this disease before I
> > end up in la la land.  I keep reminding my daughter to ignore what I say
> > if/when I get to the same point.
> >
> > Here's hoping the entire process goes more smoothly than you fear.
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >> [Original Message]
> >> From: Theresa W <tchessie1@sbcglobal.net>
> >> To: <gardenchat@hort.net>
> >> Date: 5/25/2007 12:38:50 AM
> >> Subject: [CHAT] its awfully quiet....and the struggle of next week
> >>
> >> Is everyone outside??
> >>
> >> Well- I know I haven't been online much either, but here is the update
> >> on me.
> >> Garden-related:  I planted the new astilbe that friends gave me for my
> >> birthday this afternoon, and I gave away a bunch of plants that I had
> >> too much of or not enough room anymore to a friend this evening.
> >>
> >> Tomorrow, I'm working half day, then packing to go back to Texas, and
> >> getting a massage at 2pm in an effort not to implode.
> >>
> >> Saturday I fly to Texas.  Next Tuesday in Texas, my younger sister and
> I
> >> will be taking my mom to an Alzheimer's care center to admit her.  I'm
> >> very stressed about this, and sad, and relieved, and pretty much every
> >> other possible emotion that exists.  It is going to be horrible, she is
> >> going to be furious, and I'm sure lots of crying will occur.  But, it
> is
> >> the right thing to do, she is getting worse by the day.  The center is
> >> really nice, has an enclosed garden area (so she can go in and out
> >> whenever she wants) and they have suggested that we bring her bird
> >> feeders to put outside her window.  They also will let her plant things
> >> in the garden area, and her winder looks out on the garden.  Still, I
> >> can't wait until Tuesday is over.  We can't tell her what we are doing,
> >> and that feels very icky- but everyone has advised us to just get her
> in
> >> the car and bring her without her knowing where she is really going.
> >> Otherwise she'll be so upset before she gets there, it is even worse
> (we
> >> definitely don't need "worse").  I'm going to stay in Texas for another
> >> week after that, visit my mom (we'll see if she will ever talk to me)
> >> and help support my sister.
> >> Then, I'm flying to Boston to visit my older sister and nephew (he's
> >> graduating from preschool!).  That will be my chance to recuperate, and
> >> Carl is a great distraction.  I'm sure I'll make lots of Lego things
> >> with him : )
> >>
> >> So- I'll return to my own life in mid-June, but will try to check in
> >> occassionally in the meantime.  Thanks to all who have been checking up
> >> on me to see how things are going.  I really appreciate this groups
> >> support, and particularly any positive thoughts you can send my way
> next
> >> Tuesday.
> >>
> >> Theresa
> >>
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Pam Evans
Kemp TX
zone 8A

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